Fascinating. Well to me it was anyway. I had no idea. I knew that there must be a lot of lonely women of all ages out there, many of who were solely interested in sexual hookups, but the breadth and depth of it all was, to me, staggering.
I switched over from a Yahoo account to Gmail about seven years ago (one of my wiser choices) but I still occasionally visit the Yahoo account to see if something has accidentally turned up there. It’s been a year, maybe two, since someone sent anything to that account but I make periodic checks nonetheless. I note that despite not having used the account for so long it’s still chock full of emails, 100% of which are junk. I quickly delete everything and get on with the rest of my life. However recently I saw something that piqued my interest. It was an ad for a website called Spicy Mature Encounters. I checked it out.
Why did I check out a website that is clearly designed to facilitate adults meeting one another for sex? Good question. First of all it is totally unrelated to my marriage which is soon to reach the 38-year mark. That marriage does not feature any cheating by either party. Simply not interested. No, I was simply curious. What I saw probably shouldn’t have surprised me but it sure did.
First of all I had to register to see anything at all. I offered as little information as possible and did not include a profile pic. I accidentally gave my age as ten years younger, making me 61 (the good ole days). I then “checked out” the offerings.
I limited my search to women who were roughly in my age group. Though I later included younger women, again out of curiosity. The women I saw came in all sizes, shapes and colors. There were two pictures of each women. Most had one that revealed their breasts or more and one in which they wore clothes. Some women were more modest. I was surprised to note that a few women had photos of their vagina and nothing else. In others naked women sat spread eagled. Seemed a little over the top and frankly not very classy. Maybe they think it will indicate how serious they are.
What also struck me was the little bios they provided. Most women were quite graphic about what they wanted and I’ll leave it to your imagination to guess what. Some wanted to provide oral favors, others wanted to receive them, a few wanted both. Some wanted to “do it” outdoors, at least one in a car, one in a swimming pool. Many women professed that they were quite randy and complained that they hadn’t had “it” in a long time. Some of these complainers were married or living with someone. Yes, the site teemed with cheaters. In most cases women were their specifically to have their sexual desires met though some indicated that they wouldn't mind a relationship blossoming.
There was something quite odd about extremely normal looking women baring their breasts and expressing their desires. It's not what one sees in popular culture. In films it is almost always the beautiful young people who are getting it on. Older people having sex is fodder for comedy.
But adults of all ages have sexual desires. Sex is exciting. It makes us feel wanted. Fulfilled. It creates a connection. It can make older people feel young again. Sex is good for the soul. Sadly, there are a lot of lonely or sexually unsatisfied people in the world. It can be a huge void in your life to "not be getting any." Poor darlings.
But was it all real? And were all these women really near me? Presumably, based on the criteria I established in signing up, they were all either in my city or close by. Are there that many horny women walking around?
But the shocking part to me was the messages I received. Lots and lots and lots of them. (Had I wanted to respond I couldn’t have because to send messages costs money and brudder, it ain’t cheap.) Again women of all kinds were messaging me, I who had virtually nothing in my profile and no photo. They wanted to know if I’d like to chat. They wanted to know if I’d like to meet. They wanted to know if I could come over tonight to…..Let’s say, go all the way. They acted excited by my mere presence. And these messages were not just coming from my “desired” age group, I got them from women in their thirties, their twenties and one who was nineteen! Attractive young women soliciting sex from someone who was forty years their senior? What the hell? And many of the younger women suggested we get together as soon as I could come to their place. Really?
Now I really wondered if all of these women were on the level. I also — I suppose quite naturally — wondered what it would be like for me if I was single. Would I really have dozens and dozens of women offering to go to bed with me? Sounds to be good to be true. Is it?
I did a little sleuthing on ye olde internet and discovered the answer to my question is a definite: maybe, kind of, sort of.
There was very little specific about the particular site I visited but I learned that in general there are plenty of legitimate women looking for love and there are also plenty of bots. From my reading I guessed that a lot of the younger women who messaged me were bots and most of the older ones were not. Scams exist but so do people desperate to get laid.
I had mixed feelings about my time with the site. For one thing I felt like I was cheating on my wife despite the fact that I had no interest in meeting or even chatting with any of these women. But it felt wrong nontheless. I also felt that I was leading women on just by being there. They assumed that I was someone looking for a romantic evening. I gathered that there were a lot more women looking than there were men available, at least among those people above fifty.
The experience made me a little sad. To realize that there are so many women whose needs are not being met. Many were widowed or divorced while others were with men who couldn’t fill their needs. It’s got to be one helluva lot harder to meet someone when you’re sixty-five.
If the site is totally legitimate then they’re providing some hope for women (I noted how women used the word “hope” a lot and seemed so desperate to meet someone). This is a good thing and I wish them all well. Sorry I can’t be of service ladies, I’m spoken for.
Coda: After two days I deleted my account.
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